ASL or Baby Signs?

I need your advice. I’m trying to decide whether we should use American Sign Language signs or “Baby Signs” with our daughter. Since our daughter from Russia will be over a year old by the time we get her home, I think it’s important we try to use sign language with her since she will understand Russian but not English and won’t be able to speak either.

So has anyone out there used signing with their child, and if so did you use ASL or Baby Signs. I’ve heard that ASL signs can be difficult for children to do, is that true?

At the same time, no one else would understand Baby Signs except for us. Where as it’s possible she would end up interacting with people who knew ASL.

So what do you suggest? And if you know of any good books please let me know!

*By the way, I’m also posting this on our Russian blog so if you read both, don’t be surprised to see the same post twice!

20/20

Did anyone else watch tonight’s episode of 20/20? It was about transgender children. I think it orginally showed last year and I caught a little of it. But tonight I watched the whole thing and I have to say it was fascinating.

That little girl Riley just broke my heart! I can not imagine how horrible it must be for her to hate her body so much and to truly believe that God made a mistake and gave her the wrong body. The poor little thing, how hard it must be for her to be teased at school and not accepted. This child believed she was supposed to be a girl since she was 2 years old.

It’s amazing to me that a child that young can have a clear sense that even though they have a boy’s body and are treated like a boy, they honestly believe they are a girl.

I hope little Riley find some sort of peace with herself. She is now 12 years of age and as if puberty isn’t hard enough without this on top of it! Thank goodness she has supportive parents to help her through it. The show said that transgender children whose parents do not support them, are 4 times more likely to attempt suicide and do drugs. And they are twice as likely to get AIDS. Just goes to show what a difference a supportive family can make to a child.

The Accidental Adoption

Wife: Honey, sit down. I have some news for you.

Husband: What is it?

Wife: Well, I don’t know how to say this, so I’ll just come out with it. I went out to the mailbox today and . . . well, we got an I-171H.

Husband: A what?!?! An U.S. Immigration I-171H adoption approval form?! As in, we’re going to have another baby?!?

Wife: It looks that way.

Husband: But how? We’ve been so careful! I put away all the blank I-600A forms. Didn’t you hide our home-study?

Wife: Of course I did. But don’t forget, there was that one night . . .

Husband: What night? (pauses) Ohhh, that night. But it was only once. We were just messing around. I didn’t print clearly. I didn’t even use black ink! (pauses again) But it was kind of fun. (giggles)

Wife: It was, wasn’t it? I’ll never forget how cute you looked getting your fingerprints taken.

Husband: So now we’ve got our I-171H, eh? But that doesn’t always mean you’ll adopt, does it? I mean, shouldn’t you see the agency or something, make sure everything’s okay?

Wife: I already did. I’m five documents along.

Husband: Five documents!

Wife: And they’re all notarized, certified, state sealed and authenticated! There was just one small scare when the agency couldn’t see the notary’s middle initial, but it showed up just fine under the magnifying glass.

Husband: Thank goodness! And you, honey? Are you feeling okay?

Wife: I’m feeling fine. As long as I know you’re happy about this.

Husband: Happy? I’m thrilled! It’s always a shock at first when something like this happens, but of course I’m happy.

Ch-ch-changes

“And these children that you spit on
As they try to change their worlds
Are immune to your consultations
They’re quite aware of what they’re going through”

- David Bowie

Obviously a lot of changes going on in the world of Vietnam adoptions. Unfortunately not all of them good. We have notified our agency that we are open to a child with some special needs, apparently they may be able to match some special needs children before the September 1st deadline. However we are not very hopeful that this will happen.

Due to this we have made some changes, as of today, we have a Dossier registered in Russia through a different agency. Because we are open to a non-Caucasian child they feel that it should move quite quickly for us. We have started a new blog and would love it you all followed us on our new adoption. We will continue this blog until the Vietnam program officially ends. You can visit our new blog and adoption story at the link below. I started the blog a couple of months ago when we decided to start a second adoption, however I didn’t feel comfortable sharing the news with everyone right away. I wanted to wait until it was absolutely official before announcing it to the world, I didn’t want to jinx it by sharing too soon. So you may want to go back to the beginning and read from there, don’t worry it’s not too far back.

We are very excited and eager to start our family with a child from Russia, yet still hopeful one day we will be able to complete our adoption from Vietnam.

Our Little Russian

Home again

So we made it home safe and sound from Nicaragua. I have a TON of photos that I hope to post over the next few posts. I know I still have to talk about the pizza party, plus the boat trip with the girls and we had a birthday party for Heydi on Friday at the orphanage so I have to post about that too!

Unfortunately 2 of the girls had come down with the chicken pox! Poor little things, Maria had come over to me on Thursday morning and told me she was hot. Naturally I thought “well of course you are, it’s Central America in May, we’re all hot!”. But I offered her sympathy and felt her forehead, Wow she was REALLY hot.  That night when we came back she was in bed with a wet wash cloth on her forehead, turns out it was the chicken pox. Poor little thing. What I love is that she still offered me a great big smile when I came to say goodbye. She is a very happy girl and was always smiling and laughing when we were there. She was a delight to spend time with and I hope she gets better quickly!

maria

{Maria, girl with the biggest smile}

Then on Saturday when we came over we noticed that Rebeca was not around. We asked where she was and were told that she too was sick. The night before she had shown me a rash on the back of her neck, because they don’t have a lot of lighting there I couldn’t really see it and assumed it was heat rash, nope, chicken pox too! So unfortunately we didn’t get to say goodbye to Maria or Rebeca. Mother Superior told us that most of the younger girls had NOT had the chicken pox yet, so I guess they are looking at a few weeks of sick girls sadly. I can’t imagine how miserable they will be in that heat with itchy pox that they want to scratch, only made worse by the sweat.

Rebeca

{Rebeca on the boat tour}

I hope to post more this week about the trip. We did go hiking up the top of another volcano where we got to see a sloth! Coolest thing ever. I’ll post more photos of that too. We also decided we wanted to sponsor 2 of the girls, half-sisters Heydi and Orsila. We’re going to write to them and send money to help pay for their uniforms, medicine and schooling. They have been in the orphanage for 4 years now. They are the sweetest girls.

Sisters

{Sisters, Orsila & Heydi, out to dinner with us}

Hogar Madre de Albertina Orphanage - Part 2

*Note: You must ignore the sweaty, hot, Central America me in the photo at the end. I don’t look good in Central America! Thank goodness most of you will be drawn to the beautiful face next to mine and won’t notice me!

I’m glad everyone is enjoying the photographs of the girls. They are indeed all very beautiful and healthy. The orphanage is run by Nuns and currently there are about 17 girls living there, ages ranging from 4-13. The 2 eldest girls go to school in the morning outside of the orphanage, but the rest of the girls are taught at the orphanage by the Nuns and volunteers. They are taught english, math, religion and spanish from what we saw of their notebooks. They are in need of a blackboard!

{Rebeca}

There is one bedroom full of bunk beds that the girls sleep in. They have small cubby holes where they store their clothes. There is a chapel, kitchen, laundry room and some open areas with tables where the girls do their school work. The bathrooms are in the open courtyard and the kitchen is very basic. They have a deep freeze and a refrigerator, however they don’t have electricity during the day to run them. They also have a computer, but apparently it doesn’t work and since there was no electricity, Cliff was unable to take a look at it to see what the problem was.

orphanage

{Girls playing jump rope, you can see the bathrooms behind them}

They do seem to take very good care of the girls, tonight they were all going to the Dentist. I believe their main food is rice and beans. I’m sure meat rarely comes into their diet, and when it does it is in very small amounts. It seems the main needs of the orphanage are a constant supply of food and electricity so that they could store milk and other perishable items. Our hotel owner told us that a woman from England who just left had spent the last 2 weeks volunteering with them and plans on trying to organize more assistance for them once she is back in England. She is going to give us the woman’s email address, so hopefully we will be able to help in some way once we are back home.

Tania

{Tania, she is one of the eldest girls and has been there the longest}

The girls like to practice their English, I have to say it is adorable the way they say Cliff’s name. Because the letter “i” seems to be a problem for them (e.g. tiger becomes teeger) instead of Cliff they say Cleef. It is so cute, of course my name is just too darn hard to say! If only my mother had named me “Sue”, I’m sure it would have sounded adorable out of their mouths also. But they do know a number of English language songs which we were honored to receive a performance of. Included in the night’s performance were, B.I.N.G.O, Head shoulders knees and toes, and the alphabet song. Naturally the section of “L, M, N, O, P” was mighty mumbled and stumbled upon. Honestly the song should be slower at that section! Even English speaking children stumble upon those letters when first learning it. Perhaps it was made that way because it is so darn cute when they mumble over those letters.

singing

{Performance of ‘Head, Shoulders, Knees and Toes’}

It’s true, we have fallen in love with every single one of them! If we could take them all home we would. Every single one is so special and so loving, they deserve a home. Especially Tania, we can tell she is very comfortable at the orphanage. She is obviously a favorite of Mother Superior and is very responsible. She helps take care of the younger girls and she laughs so easily it is infectious. In the photo above you can see Tania standing against the wall in the back covering her face, she was laughing and Mother Superior was teasing her because she wasn’t joining in with the other girls singing. But boy she needed affection, she came running up to me and jumped into my arms, at first she was goofing off, having me pick her up and swing her. But them she just held on tight and put her head against me and didn’t let go. It surprised me, being the eldest there I thought perhaps she would be too “old” to go ahead and get a hug that she obviously wanted and needed. I held on tight to that girl and didn’t let go.

Tania and me

{Tania and me}